Please welcome Courtney to Jamie’s Thots! Courtney is another contributor to the ongoing Enough series. Here she talks about “when not enough is OK.”
As I was preparing dinner tonight I looked around my house and was disgusted with the state of it. Never mind I had been ill, febrile, and plastered to the couch for the past few days, all I could see was what needed to be done. The floor was covered in dog hair. The table was scattered with papers. My children needed bathed. Clothes laid around needing to be put up, and toys littered the floor. Not to mention, I would still have to do the dishes after dinner.
I realized that there was no way I was going to get everything done in the amount of time that I had pictured in my mind. I was annoyed with that thought, and kept saying to myself “You should be doing more.” Then, a small voice in my head said “What you are doing is enough.” That moment, I was doing what was important – preparing dinner. I was taking care of my family’s needs. That was enough. Everything else was extra credit.
Being a parent is already a tough job. Add to it the pressure of society telling you that what you are doing isn’t enough. You aren’t caring enough. You aren’t loving enough. You aren’t fun enough. You aren’t disciplining your children enough. You aren’t healthy enough. You aren’t good enough.
To this, I say:
I’ve given you enough.
I don’t have enough.
Not being enough is OK.
It is ok to let the toys stay out a bit longer and leave laundry to get a little wrinkled.
It is ok to leave the dishes for the night.
It is ok to let the children bathe in the morning.
It is ok to take care of your family’s needs and not societies opinions.
It is ok.
What you are doing is enough.