Four new wedding tradition ideas that I love

Wedding RocksWe’ve all been to weddings where all the conventional traditions were followed. Sure, they have meaning but there’s also a point where weddings can get too scripted and less individualized to emphasize the couple getting married.
Traditions have a place, a purpose. But they also should have meaning. If the tradition doesn’t have meaning for you or doesn’t represent you, why do it? It seems like a wedding is the perfect place to celebrate who you are as a couple, to acknowledge your unique situation.

I’ve seen (or done myself) four “new” traditions that I think are a great idea for weddings. I don’t have personal photos for all of them, but I think you will get the idea.

 

Guests signing rocks 

Wedding stones
Some friends of ours got married recently and they did the neatest thing at their reception. I think they still had the traditional guest book but the rocks were really cool. The basket of native stones were accompanied by different colored Sharpie pens. We were asked to write our name on a rock and place them in another basket. They would then be put in a jar or other container and displayed in the family’s home. This way they had a personalized, decorative record of each person at their wedding. Displaying a guest book feels a little outdated a month after the wedding, right? The natural stones are a beautiful and memorable way to remember who was at the wedding.

 

Personalized wedding hashtags

 

#OMADWEDDING
You can have a sign at your wedding that invites people on social media to use the same hashtag for your wedding. (Photo credit: Mink)

For those not “in the know” about social media, you can use the pound sign (hashtag) to connect items on social media that are in the same topic. For example, we could have done #JJSmithWedding at our wedding and all pictures shared on social media using that hashtag could be found, and later downloaded, together. Hashtags weren’t a huge “thing” almost six years ago so we didn’t do this. But anyways, it’s silly to assume that no one at your wedding will be whipping out their smartphone so you might as well simplify and unify the efforts. It’s a lot easier than offering disposable cameras at each reception table then paying to develop the film!

 

Sand ceremony 

Colored Sand Kitsch in Vases
Colored Sand Kitsch in Vases (Photo credit: Nataraj Metz)

The sand ceremonies don’t produce images as elaborate as above but they are still really pretty. The sand ceremony can be done with just the couple, but is especially meaningful when there’s children from previous relationships involved. The sand ceremony is done often in place of lighting the unity candle and the resulting jar of colored sand is usually displayed in the couple’s home after they get married.

How do you do it? Each person gets to choose their own color of sand that represents them. Each person in the couple and if applicable, the children all contribute. As the officiant shares the meaning and perhaps prays over the tradition, each participant takes turns pouring parts of their sand into the vase or open-mouth jar.

Signing the marriage license during the ceremony

OK so this is our program, not our marriage license. But I think it's a great idea to include signing the license as part of the ceremony.
OK so this is our program, not our marriage license. But I think it’s a great idea to include signing the license as part of the ceremony.

This is one that I’ve never seen except for the fact that we did it during our wedding! So, you know that moment in the wedding when the special music is playing and the couple getting married just kind of look into each other’s eyes and try not to laugh? No offense, but it’s just awkward. I also believe that the marriage license kind of gets shafted a lot of times. I mean, it’s the document that seals the deal so to speak and how many times is it just signed super quick to get it over with?

We had what is called a Covenant Marriage (a marriage that has more legally binding requirements put in place than a traditional marriage license). It was very important to us to talk about the covenant and the “extra binding” commitment we were making to each other. We made signing the license as part of our ceremony. It helped emphasize what we wanted to and it also saved us from that awkward staring at each other.

So what wedding traditions have you seen that you just love? Leave your thots in the comments!

 

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  1. Great post! I photographed a wedding with a sand ceremony and the bride and groom both used soil from their childhood homes. They were different shades of Mississippi red clay and it looked awesome.

    Nathan & I had guests sign postcards instead of a guestbook. This also allowed friends and family who couldn’t make it to sign from afar. I’m supposed to bind them into a book, but almost one year later and I haven’t done that yet. Maybe I could do it for our anniversary. 🙂

  2. Love the ritual signing, instead of, as we were instructed to do, signing in the pastor’s office, before the ceremony, so we’d be legal as soon as we were done.

    Our way made the ceremony sort of an un-necessity; your way makes it the whole deal.

    Sighs.

    Now I want a re-do! :-\

    1. If you ever do a vow “renewal” maybe you can sign a new “love contract” or something. The license still means something regardless of when signed.

  3. I’ve also seen the sand ceremony and the personalized hashtag many times lately. But the rock signing is cute! I also always liked the idea of having a big tree drawing and having guests put their thumbprint in some ink, then dot the thumbprint on the big tree to leave a “leaf” with their name signed next to it. 🙂

    1. I’ve seen the thumbprint tree at a different kind of reception. I just love the idea of stuff that can be used in the home as a commemorative decoration that doesn’t scream “wedding!”

  4. All sound like really great ideas, especially the rocks. I like the idea of this sort of symbolizing having a piece of everybody at your wedding contributing to the foundation of a marriage — and in a pretty and decorative container. 🙂

    1. Yes, I agree! It is a whole other take on the “speak now or forever hold your peace.” Instead of signifying the lack of negative, it’s an overt, supportive positive!

  5. All are fantastic ideas. My wedding vowels should be a little different. Because me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 years and two kids. some way I like to have that incorporated into my vows. Thanks for sharing this post…

    1. Thanks, Kevin! Congrats on your own nuptials. I love that you want to incorporate the kids/long relationship in your vows. What we did was found traditional vows (was important to both to be somewhat traditional) and then altered them to fit our story.

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